The Matrix of Modern Relationships
I was feeling a little crafty today, so I made a chart. It actually helped me understand relationship dynamics by thinking about all the potential variations. I’m sure I missed some, so if you have anything to add, leave a comment! Also, this is a perfect conversation starter for relationship war stories, so feel free [...]
When Should You Agree to Sex? Guys Tell It Straight
In this era of sexual free-for-all, one of the most difficult things to figure out is the proper timing for having sex. For women, there are usually tradeoffs involved in diving between the sheets. Even if we decide to “have sex like a man,” it’s not possible, because the sexual double standard is alive and [...]
Sleeping Around
Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question: Anonymous: Hi Carolyn, I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have [...]
Player or Boyfriend? It’s Written On His Forehead
Wouldn’t it be great if you could take one look at someone’s face and know if they were relationship material? It turns out that people are remarkably accurate at predicting just that. A study at Durham University in England showed that Boyfriends look significantly different than Players. Check out this example: At first I thought [...]
Say What You Need to Say
“Have no fear for giving in Have no fear for giving over You better know that in the end It’s better to say too much Than never to say what you need to say again Even if your hands are shaking And your faith is broken Even as the eyes are closing Do it [...]
I Married a One-Night Stand
“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.” Woody Allen Today I’m beginning a new series, and it starts with the backstory of my own most significant relationship. I sometimes share personal details here, but I’ve never told you this particular [...]