As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 19, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want Recently a college-aged friend turned me on to The Average American Male by Chad Kultgen (2007), a book she found disgusting and reprehensible in every way. She went so far as to say she hated the author. She was about 50 pages in at that point, and it was clear that she had absolutely no intention [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 10, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want Yeah, I know this sounds like a tawdry Cosmo article with stupid sex tips, but I figured it would grab your attention. I found it straightforward and informative, always a plus when it comes to sex talk. Sandra Prior is a Brit – I don’t know what it is about the UK these days, but [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 27, 2009 in
What Guys Want Here’s an article I think is worth sharing. It’s unusually good for this kind of thing. I know I can never get enough of guys explaining how guys think and what they want. Sort of an instruction manual!
What Guys Wish We Knew
By Sandra Prior
Posted: July 26, 2009
One of the great things about guys is they’re [...]
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We really need to find a way to get guys to stop worrying about penis size. I’ve gathered a critical mass of anecdotal evidence that tells me the problem is getting worse. Of course, guys worrying about the size of their junk is nothing new. Studies have always shown that many men are dissatisfied with [...]
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“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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I have one final thought I want to share with you from the story of how I got together with my husband all those years ago. It’s tricky, but I think it’s important, so here goes.
You say a lot about who you are and what you want when you decide to have sex with someone.
I [...]
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“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”
Woody Allen
Today I’m beginning a new series, and it starts with the backstory of my own most significant relationship. I sometimes share personal details here, but I’ve never told you this particular story. It’s the story that originally won [...]
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