Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 4, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Yesterday Lisa, a reader, wrote and asked for my thoughts on the Tiger Woods drama. Specifically, she wondered about the correlation between power and infidelity. The correlation is obvious:
However, correlation doesn’t tell us anything about cause and effect. We need to look at cheating in general to understand why this correlation is so strong.
Who cheats?
It’s [...]
Tags: adultery, affection, cheating, desire, infidelity, men, monogamy, power, Tiger Woods, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 19, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I just returned from my trip to Florence and Paris, and while I didn’t actually “work” during my vacation, I seem to view everything through the lens of relationships these days. Everywhere I turned I seemed to find myself observing something that I could hardly wait to share with you. Today’s post is inspired by [...]
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Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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I love Jason Mraz’s song I’m Yours. Doesn’t every woman? It’s been on Billboard’s Top 100 chart for 74 weeks, a record. It’s the third-best selling digital song of all time, having sold 4.4 million downloads, and it’s still going strong. Why?
Surrender.
“Well you done done me and you bet I felt it
I tried to be [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 4, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want Recently, the economics blog Marginal Revolution ran a piece called A Theory For Why Latvian Women are Beautiful, after a colleague returned from Latvia astounded by the beauty of the women there. This would hardly surprise Latvian women, 500 of whom marched in a Blonde Weekend parade last May to cheer people up during the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
Tags: attachment, BFF, boyfriend, boys, college, commitment, control, date, dating, David Buss, ego, fall in love, feelings, flirt, friend, girl, girls, guy, intimacy, jealousy, love, male, open, power, reassurance, relationship, relationships, security, self-esteem, sex, trust, women
I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966
In the most basic terms, a human relationship is a connection or attachment [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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