Ever since I published Are Emo Guys the Antidote to Frat Poison? last week, I’ve been getting some pushback from geeky types and the girls who love them. Hey, I’m game. I love geeks. In fact I married one, sort of. Well…he had been a geek, for sure, but I met him when he was [...]
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When we want something, we employ strategy to help us get it (hopefully). It might not be a sound, well thought-out strategy, but we choose one path or another. Obviously, our chances for success are greatest if we have considered all the angles. One of the most important factors to consider in any strategy is [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 30, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want The other day a guy left a comment expressing frustration at Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing? His point was that he gets jerked around by girls all the time, especially when he is a nice guy. They lead him on, flirt and fuss, and then say they don’t want to date. It got me [...]
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“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.”
Drew Barrymore
If you have had enough of hooking up with either randoms or friends, and you feel ready for a relationship, it’s important that you not waste your time and energy on boys who don’t have any relationship potential. You need [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 29, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”
Abraham J. Heschel
Before you hook up with a guy, do you think about what things will feel like afterwards?
If you’re going for the random one-night stand, obviously your expectations are very low. A minimum of awkwardness in [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 22, 2008 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “I think the quality of sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in you or it isn’t and it really doesn’t have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of your lips. Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.”
Sophia [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 13, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
“Women are better off when sex is scarce and men have few outlets for sexual satisfaction, because men will offer women more under those circumstances than they will offer when sexual gratification is widely and freely available. It is rational for women to try to restrict men’s sexual opportunities, and one effective way to [...]
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“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
Mark Twain
Dear Aunt Sue,
I’ve been hooking up with this guy a lot lately. I think we’re both really into it. The only thing is, he’s got a girlfriend. He says their relationship isn’t making him happy, and I think he might be [...]
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