Swearing Off Players, Once and For All
Dear Susan, I’m a nineteen year-old college sophomore, and at school I have found myself to only be attracted to alphas. Just so you know, I’m very independent and driven, both in school and work. I don’t drink much because I like to be in control of my own behavior. In other words, I’m a [...]
Does Hooking Up Lead to Relationships?
There’s a new study out that takes a look at relationship quality in a variety of different scenarios. Here’s how the press has responded: I. Tracy Clark-Flory, Salon: Surprise! Hookups Can Lead to Love That one-night stand might turn into a perfectly happy relationship, a new study warns II. Kay Steiger, Feministe: Another Defense of [...]
Personal Grooming Below the Equator
To all my readers who couldn’t care less about the politics of sex and relationships, this one’s for you. Pubic hair (def.): A patch of hair that causes nothing but trouble. Urban Dictionary Recently Kim Kardashian shared this grooming secret with Allure magazine: I am Armenian, so of course I am obsessed with laser hair [...]
The Essential Truth About Female Promiscuity
I had a laptop disaster over the weekend (Mac says the crash was caused by old liquid damage, ouch. No more wine while writing.) Anyway, I got a brand new computer today, and am up and running once again. It’s good to be back and I learned something important during this period: I’m not indispensable! [...]
Six Things That Make a Woman Bad in Bed
Dear Susan, I am writing because I’ve been totally humiliated and I don’t know what to do. I recently found out my boyfriend had cheated on me, and I broke up with him for it. He actually claimed to want to stay together and work it out, and he acted genuinely sorry. I considered trying [...]
Igniting the Spark of Sexual Attraction
I recently made the virtual acquaintance of fellow blogger Dalrock. His blog looks to be just a couple of months old. His slogan is: Thoughts from a happily married father on a post feminist world. Cool. Sometimes I think those guys are endangered. Anyway, he must have seen my recent post on modern relationships, because [...]
Chastened: A Contemporary Cautionary Tale
Recently I read Chastened: The Unexpected Story of My Year Without Sex by Hephzibah Anderson. It’s been reviewed thoroughly by the media, with an array of predictable responses. The feminist media was worried that Hephzibah was engaging in a bit of self-slut-shaming, but took comfort from the fact that nowhere does she explicitly state that [...]
Hooking Up Incredibly Stupid
Brittany, a student at the University of St. Thomas, has written When Dating Philosophies Collide for College Candy. First she sets us up with the background story. (The red flags are mine.) “Recently, I met a guy… at work – he was visiting the racetrack with a large group of his buddies. They were enduring [...]
Women Want Surrender, But Not Yet
I’ve been thinking about the whole PUA vs. Lover question, and how complicated it is for men to get this balance right. Athlone expressed how overwhelming and completely impossible advice like this feels: The balancing act called for must be duplicated at every level and at every moment: always a genuine passion, and always a [...]
