Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 5, 2010 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Personal Development Dear Susan, First let me say I love, love, love your blog…it’s required daily reading for me! I would really appreciate any insight/advice you have about my current situation…Basically, it’s the classic tale as old as time…the old f*ck buddy conundrum. Last spring, while in the final semester of grad school, I started hooking up [...]
Tags: dating, friends with benefits, FWB, graduate school, online dating, relationship, relationship advice, relationship potential
“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.” Sun Tzu, The Art of War Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game: Woman is the desired object. Man wants sex. Man courts woman [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out [...]
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Ever since I published Are Emo Guys the Antidote to Frat Poison? last week, I’ve been getting some pushback from geeky types and the girls who love them. Hey, I’m game. I love geeks. In fact I married one, sort of. Well…he had been a geek, for sure, but I met him when he [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 18, 2009 in
Tidbits Yesterday, in writing about a hilarious blog written by Welsh Girl, I stated that no one does self-deprecating humor like the Brits. Today I’m more convinced than ever, thanks to my English friend Annabel, who called something equally amusing to my attention: the personal ads in the London Review of Books. They are so outrageously [...]
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“I’m really attracted to you. I have a great time with you. You’re awesome, you’re the coolest girl I know. Your friendship means a lot to me. I don’t want to date you.” WTF? This seems to be the standard hookup dump line these days. In fact, if you get that much, you’re lucky; [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 17, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities I love The Frisky. I especially love Amelia, who was recently dumped and has written about it with humor and grace. She also writes a series called Thoughts from Guys on our IM, which is excellent. It’s like He Said/She Said over at College Candy, same idea. Her three guys are The Experienced Guy, The [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 7, 2009 in
Tidbits Which zone are you in? Which zone do you wanna get to? Click on the post-it above right to comment and I’ll write about it!
Tags: attraction, awkward, dating, friends with benefits, hooking up, relationship potential, sex
“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.” Drew Barrymore If you have had enough of hooking up with either randoms or friends, and you feel ready for a relationship, it’s important that you not waste your time and energy on boys who don’t have any relationship potential. You need [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 29, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies “Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” Abraham J. Heschel Before you hook up with a guy, do you think about what things will feel like afterwards? If you’re going for the random one-night stand, obviously your expectations are [...]
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