Old FWB or New Shy Boy?
Dear Susan,
First let me say I love, love, love your blog…it’s required daily reading for me! I would really appreciate any insight/advice you have about my current situation…Basically, it’s the classic tale as old as time…the old f*ck buddy conundrum. Last spring, while in the final semester of grad school, I started hooking up multiple [...]
Getting an Upper Hand Job
“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
Geeks Demand Equal Time Under Fairness Doctrine
Ever since I published Are Emo Guys the Antidote to Frat Poison? last week, I’ve been getting some pushback from geeky types and the girls who love them. Hey, I’m game. I love geeks. In fact I married one, sort of. Well…he had been a geek, for sure, but I met him when he was [...]
Humour Me
Yesterday, in writing about a hilarious blog written by Welsh Girl, I stated that no one does self-deprecating humor like the Brits. Today I’m more convinced than ever, thanks to my English friend Annabel, who called something equally amusing to my attention: the personal ads in the London Review of Books. They are so outrageously [...]
Sexual Attraction + Compatibility = Nothing?
“I’m really attracted to you. I have a great time with you. You’re awesome, you’re the coolest girl I know. Your friendship means a lot to me. I don’t want to date you.”
WTF?
This seems to be the standard hookup dump line these days. In fact, if you get that much, you’re lucky; this level of [...]
Go Ahead, Go For Your Crush
I love The Frisky. I especially love Amelia, who was recently dumped and has written about it with humor and grace. She also writes a series called Thoughts from Guys on our IM, which is excellent. It’s like He Said/She Said over at College Candy, same idea. Her three guys are The Experienced Guy, The [...]
Attraction Theory
Which zone are you in? Which zone do you wanna get to? Click on the post-it above right to comment and I’ll write about it!
How to Figure Out if He Has Relationship Potential
“I love romance. I’m a sucker for it. I love it so much. It’s pathetic.”
Drew Barrymore
If you have had enough of hooking up with either randoms or friends, and you feel ready for a relationship, it’s important that you not waste your time and energy on boys who don’t have any relationship potential. You need [...]
Demanding More From Your Hookups
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”
Abraham J. Heschel
Before you hook up with a guy, do you think about what things will feel like afterwards?
If you’re going for the random one-night stand, obviously your expectations are very low. A minimum of awkwardness in [...]
