Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 5, 2010 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Personal Development Dear Susan,
First let me say I love, love, love your blog…it’s required daily reading for me! I would really appreciate any insight/advice you have about my current situation…Basically, it’s the classic tale as old as time…the old f*ck buddy conundrum. Last spring, while in the final semester of grad school, I started hooking up multiple [...]
Tags: dating, friends with benefits, FWB, graduate school, online dating, relationship, relationship advice, relationship potential
Dear Susan,
I’m having a problem with the guy I’m seeing, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, or if he’s just not that into me. I’m 23 and he’s a year older. We met at a friend’s party a couple of months ago, and started hanging out pretty regularly after that. He treats me [...]
Tags: commitment, exclusive, hooking up, relationship, relationship advice, sex
Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 25, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies Is there a woman alive who doesn’t adore Tina Fey? I mean besides Sarah Palin. Tina Fey is an incredible role model for women. A self-described high school AP nerd, she lost her virginity to her husband at the age of 24:
Amy Poehler interviewed her for Marie Claire magazine, here’s my favorite bit:
Amy: There are [...]
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I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
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As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Because physical intimacy comes before emotional intimacy when hooking up, it can be difficult to interpret communication. You may be discussing something personal with someone you don’t really know very well. Here are 30 common phrases to help you navigate these murky waters. If this reminds you of the guy you’re interested in, it’s time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 28, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Hooking Up Realities Dear Susan,
Now that midterms are over, I’m starting to think about going home for Thanksgiving. I’m worried about making the wrong choices. Actually, I’m worried I’ll make the same wrong choice several times over in the four days that I’m home. Last summer I had a thing with a guy. [...]
Tags: advice, blog, booty call, college, douche, drama, dry spell, emotions, fling, friends with benefits, girl, going home, guy, guys, having sex, hook up, hooking up, love, men, relationship, relationships, sex, strong chemistry, thanksgiving, vagina
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 19, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I just returned from my trip to Florence and Paris, and while I didn’t actually “work” during my vacation, I seem to view everything through the lens of relationships these days. Everywhere I turned I seemed to find myself observing something that I could hardly wait to share with you. Today’s post is inspired by [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
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