Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 19, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want Recently a college-aged friend turned me on to The Average American Male by Chad Kultgen (2007), a book she found disgusting and reprehensible in every way. She went so far as to say she hated the author. She was about 50 pages in at that point, and it was clear that she had absolutely no intention [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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Man whore:
A sexually active, promiscuous, younger man who is well known at most health clinics and may have an STD named after him in his honor.
Would you date a man whore? Me neither.
What if he was willing, even eager, to be exclusive with you? Me neither.
Recently I’ve noticed a real and dramatic shift in the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
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Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 14, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Tidbits
Ahhhh, I am such a cynic about Valentine’s Day. But leave it to Bella English at the Boston Globe to get me all sentimental. Reading this story reduced me to weeping and sobbing this morning.
Men like Cesar Muniz are bound to be rare. But there are plenty of good and decent guys out there. Don’t [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 8, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk Has weird sleep routines. One guy I dated used to take two Kleenex at bedtime. He would shake each out, fold it into a square and lay it carefully on the night table next to a glass of tepid water. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 27, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits “I’m afraid Dr. Baker is running a little late.”
Damn it, does this guy ever run on time? It’s only 9 am! I settle into an uncomfortable Colonial wooden chair and glance at the magazines arrayed on the scuffed coffee table. Ancient. I desultorily grab a two year-old Harper’s Bazaar with half its cover missing. Thumbing [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 11, 2009 in
Tidbits,
What Guys Want As someone who writes about hooking up and casual sex, I think a lot about the innate differences between women and men. While there is no doubt in my mind that we’re extremely different psychologically, it’s a topic that frequently stirs controversy. Women in the media are especially prone to getting their Hanky Pankies in [...]
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“And what about us? Free, we say, yet the truth is they get erections when they’re with a woman they don’t give a damn about, but we don’t have an orgasm unless we love him. What’s free about that?”
Doris Lessing, The Golden Notebook
Let’s assume you have considered and dismissed the disadvantages of hooking [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 25, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities “You’re promiscuous if you do anything, but you’re a prude if you do nothing.”
Naomi Wolf
Let me say right off that I don’t have a problem with hooking up in a moral sense. As a former wild child I understand the appeal of the one-night stand. It’s not always a bad idea, and it [...]
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