I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
Tags: attraction, bad boys, challenge, drama, independence, independent, maturity, mixed message, Muse, psycho bitch, relationship, relationships, security, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, strategy, success, upper hand
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
Tags: Art of Manliness, asshat, beauty, beauty and the beast, challenge, dating, Don Draper, fashion, Ferdinand Bardamu, girl, girls, guy, guys, hot, laughter, men, photography, pickup artist, plan, rejection, relationship, relationships, Roissy, Scientology, seduction community, self-confidence, self-esteem, support, Texts from last night, wit, women, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 9, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Personal Development Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen
There are some very compelling reasons why you should be having sex. A lot of sex. Common sense tells us that the male orgasm directly serves to propagate the species. Although the female orgasm has puzzled [...]
Tags: attachment, brain, college students, creativity, date, David Buss, feelings, girl, guys, having sex, health, kiss, kissing, orgasm, porn, problem-solving, relationship, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, support, swine, swine flu, testosterone, women
A few years ago I posed a hypothetical question to my niece, then about 15:
Q: There are two men who love you and want to marry you.
The first guy is a successful lawyer, drives a BMW, is handsome, kind, and worships the ground you walk on. But well, he is perhaps just a bit dull. [...]
Tags: attachment, blue eyes, bmw, compromise, date, dating, graduate student, guy, guys, head over heels, hypothetical question, ideal, intimacy, Intimacy lite, jared leto, longish hair, love, men, Mr. Right, musician, old ford, regret, rejection, relationship, relationships, respect, romantic, self-esteem, singer songwriter, strategies, success, two men, weak in the knees, wobbly wheel
Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
Tags: attachment, BFF, boyfriend, boys, college, commitment, control, date, dating, David Buss, ego, fall in love, feelings, flirt, friend, girl, girls, guy, intimacy, jealousy, love, male, open, power, reassurance, relationship, relationships, security, self-esteem, sex, trust, women
“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
Tags: advice, beautiful women, challenge, date, dating, drama, guy, guys, hard to get, male, pickup lines, player, relationship, relationship potential, self-esteem, sex, smart, strategies, success, wit
We really need to find a way to get guys to stop worrying about penis size. I’ve gathered a critical mass of anecdotal evidence that tells me the problem is getting worse. Of course, guys worrying about the size of their junk is nothing new. Studies have always shown that many men are dissatisfied with [...]
Tags: arrogance, boyfriend, confidence, ex, guy, hookup, hookup culture, hos, hot, IM, jeans, love, men, nice guys, open, oral sex, orgasm, penis, penis size, plastic surgery, porn, psycho, random, reassurance, relationship, relationships, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, TA, wit, women
Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
Tags: bad boys, beauty, boys, cell, challenge, commitment, communication, confidence, date, dating, desperation, dish, drama, dumped, ego, emo, emotions, ex, fall, friend, guy, hand, health, heart, heartbreak, honest, hooking up, hookup, hookup culture, hos, hot, IM, intimacy, love, men, mind, narcissism, objective, party, plan, player, power, Principle of Least Interest, psycho, rejection, relationship, relationships, romantic, romantic relationship, rude, self-esteem, selfishness, sex, signals, signs, smart, status, stuff, TA, temptation, trust, wit, women
I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jun 9, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies Jane Austen understood everything about the human heart. That’s an astonishing accomplishment for a woman who died a virgin at 41. Lauren Henderson, a novelist who attended Cambridge University in England and wrote her dissertation on the courtship rituals in Jane Austen, has gathered JA’s wisdom, and added some of her own, into Jane Austen’s [...]
Tags: advice, attraction, chase, dating, desperation, Elizabeth Bennett, Emma, flirt, friendship, guy, guys, heart, honest, humor, Jane Austen, love, Mr. Darcy, Mr. Right, open, Persuasion, player, Pride and Prejudice, relationship material, respect, self-esteem, Sense and Sensibility, sex, spontaneous, trust, virgin, wit
