Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 1, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “He doesn’t get a monopoly on the rent space in her head. He doesn’t get Park Place, and he doesn’t get Boardwalk. He gets one of those little purple properties next to Go.”
Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches
Since I wrote about Game in a positive light last week here, I’ve heard from several women who [...]
Tags: commitment, game, independence, relationship advice, self-respect, sexual attraction, Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches
Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities Damn, I knew I shouldn’t have raised the spectre of Sex-Positive Feminists in my post yesterday. It was a jinx, and this morning I woke up to an ABC news feature: Sexual Hook Ups Damned By Chastity Groups, Hailed By New Feminists It’s about how students at Harvard are once again hotly debating the issue. Do I [...]
Tags: college, double standard, feminism, Harvard, hooking up, pop psychology, relationships, reputation, self-respect, sex, sexual partners, True Love Revolution
There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 17, 2009 in
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Girl Talk When you’re going through a breakup, the first couple of days are a blur. You’re in shock, you’re in denial, and you have a whole lot of support from your friends. All that serves to blunt the effect somewhat. Then, on about day three or four, reality sets in. You. Have. Been. Dumped. Your world [...]
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“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.”
Arthur Schopenhauer, German Philosopher
With my latest post How to Stimulate Demand in a Relationship Recession, I made Mary Lingwall of Austin, Texas really angry. Check out her article here: Things That Piss Me Off: [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 8, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies,
Tidbits I absolutely adore F Minus by Tony Carillo. If I were a Miss America finalist, and was asked to name three people I would like to have dinner with, Tony Carillo would be at the top of my list. He is so wacked. I’d love to be a fly on the wall of his brain. [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Pay my respects to grace and virtue
Send my condolences to good
Give my regards to soul and romance
They always did the best they could
And so long to devotion
You taught me everything I know
Wave goodbye, wish me well
You’ve gotta let me go”
Brandon Flowers, The Killers, Human
Yeah, baby, the bitch is back! The March issue of Cosmopolitan proclaims [...]
Tags: attitude, beauty, bitchiness, challenge, college, emo, ex, Frat, freshman, girl, girls, guy, guys, heart, hos, hot, independent, male, power, relationships, romance, self-confidence, self-respect, sex, strategy, success
“I’m really attracted to you. I have a great time with you. You’re awesome, you’re the coolest girl I know. Your friendship means a lot to me. I don’t want to date you.”
WTF?
This seems to be the standard hookup dump line these days. In fact, if you get that much, you’re lucky; this level of [...]
Tags: attraction, awkward, boyfriend, boys, breakup, college, commitment, date, dumped, emo, ex, friend, girl, girlfriend, girls, guy, guys, heart, hooking up, hookup, love, male, random, relationship potential, scene, self-respect, sex, strategy, text, texting, weekend
Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 29, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”
Abraham J. Heschel
Before you hook up with a guy, do you think about what things will feel like afterwards?
If you’re going for the random one-night stand, obviously your expectations are very low. A minimum of awkwardness in [...]
Tags: awkward, beer goggles, boys, date, dating, drama, emo, ex, friend, girl, girlfriend, girls, guy, guys, heart, heartbreak, honesty, hooking up, hookup, hot, love, orgasm, plan, player, Quality Boy, random, relationship potential, relationships, romance, romantic, self-respect, sex, slow, status, strategy, text
Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 8, 2008 in
Hooking Up Realities,
What Guys Want “All I want is what’s coming to me. All I want is my fair share.”
Sally, A Charlie Brown Christmas
A few years ago, when my daughter was in middle school, I began to hear alarming tales of girls giving blow jobs on school buses and at bar mitzvahs. Once she got to high school, other scandals [...]
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