Jane Austen Explains It All For You
I’m traveling today, so I’m bringing you an older post that many of my newer readers will have missed. I originally called it Dating Advice From a Dead Virgin, and it didn’t generate a lot of traffic. Hmmm….maybe I should just have entitled it Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy. Either way, it’s still full of [...]
Scheherazade Goes to College
In the year or so that I’ve been blogging, I’ve heard a lot of stories. Many of the them have recurring themes. Even Shakespeare stole his stories from the Greeks; there just aren’t that many different variations on human behavior. A few weeks ago, though, I got an email from a reader that astounded me. [...]
My Exotic Destination Theory of Relationships
Things have been a little heavy around here lately. I’ve been writing quite a bit about the reality of today’s sexual marketplace, which is important. But I’ve overindulged on the feminism angle and I’m feeling a bit hungover. So today it’s back to basics, with a letter I received last week.
Dear Susan,
I’ve gotten myself into [...]
How Feminism Got Drunk and Hooked Up With a Loser
Rachel Simmons set the under-40 femosphere back on its heels last week with a column on her blog:
Is Hooking Up Good For Girls? (click here)
Ms. Simmons is an interesting hybrid – she is the advice columnist for Teen Vogue, but she is also a scholar (Rhodes) on the subject of female aggression and has strong [...]
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I. Woman Gets Busted for Cheating On the Radio
Thanks to Natalie (again!) for sending along something interesting and entertaining. This is a couple of weeks old, and you may have heard it. It’s hilarious and well worth a listen when you’ve got 12 minutes:
Do you feel sorry for Ashley? I don’t. Ashley had it coming. [...]
Talking About Sex Instead of Having It?
I don’t know whether talking a lot about sex leads to actually doing it, but I’ve got to think there’s some correlation. Yale students have really got sex on the considerable brain these days. I’ve been seeing a lot of interesting pieces at the Yale Daily News, mostly inspired no doubt by the biennial Sex [...]
When Should You Agree to Sex? Guys Tell It Straight
In this era of sexual free-for-all, one of the most difficult things to figure out is the proper timing for having sex. For women, there are usually tradeoffs involved in diving between the sheets. Even if we decide to “have sex like a man,” it’s not possible, because the sexual double standard is alive and [...]
The #1 Mistake Women Make in Relationships
I just finished the memoir Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, and Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made, by Mary Pols. I’d been moved to pick it up after reading positive blurbs like these:
“Bay Area film critic Pols chronicles her unexpected pregnancy and journey into not-quite-single motherhood….A page-turner by someone who stopped waiting [...]
Help, I’m In a “Whatever” With a Guy I Really Like
Dear Susan,
I’m having a problem with the guy I’m seeing, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, or if he’s just not that into me. I’m 23 and he’s a year older. We met at a friend’s party a couple of months ago, and started hanging out pretty regularly after that. He treats me [...]
Are Alpha Males Struggling to Remain Relevant?
Those of you who read HUS regularly know that I frequently sing the praises of Beta males. While many women respond positively to such talk, it often ticks off the men. Mostly, they’re discouraged Betas who are bitterly convinced that women only want Alpha assholes. They often find comfort at sites that teach seduction techniques [...]
