Posted by Susan Walsh on Nov 16, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies I’ve been getting a lot of questions from readers lately, which is awesome! Recently, a number have touched on the same dilemma: how to handle a strong chemistry with someone who is already in a committed relationship. Obviously, circumstances and details will vary considerably from case to case, but there are some general rules that [...]
Tags: hanging out, sexual tension
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
Tags: advice, bed, blow job, boys, chivalry, date, douchebag, drama, dumb, femininity, flaky, flirt, friend, girl, girls, guy, guys, hookup, independence, intelligence, kiss, kissing, love, mean girl, men, orgasm, penis size, pissed, porn, pursue, relationship, relationships, scene, sexual tension, sexual variety, single, sons, support, trust, vagina, women, x chromosome
Posted by Susan Walsh on Sep 28, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Manolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too nice.”
One of [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 31, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies Are women unrealistic in their expectations of love? Do we demand so much from men that none can ever hope to measure up? What is the love that we dream of as girls, and can we ever really find it?
My own views of love were undoubtedly shaped, at least in part, by the many books [...]
Tags: chase, fall in love, heart, Jane Austen, love, marriage, nicole kidman, Persuasion, romantic, sex, sexual tension, together, true love, wedding, women, Wuthering Heights, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 3, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want “Joey: You waited too long and now you’re in ‘The Friend Zone’.
Ross: No, I’m not in the Zone.
Joey: Come on, Ross; you’re mayor of the Zone!”
Friends
I’m one of those cynics who thinks it is really, really difficult for guys and girls to maintain platonic friendships. I think it works best when:
One or [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 15, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies “Decide what you want and then go get it.”
“You can be anything you want to be.”
“You get what you ask for in this life.”
“You’ll never know unless you try.”
These are some of the principles that have guided my own life. I’m a doer, a go-getter. I’m achievement oriented, though I’ll be the first to confess [...]
Tags: casual sex, dating, friend, friendship, getting what you want, hook up, hooking up, hookup, plan, platonic friends, relationship, relationships, sex, sexual tension, strategy, success, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue,
Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I especially feel [...]
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“You’re the best listener that I’ve ever met
You’re my best friend
Best friend with benefits”
Alanis Morissette, Head Over Feet
As someone who writes about contemporary relationships and the hookup culture, I hear a lot about Friends With Benefits Relationships (FWBR), mostly from women. Mostly they don’t seem to work too well, in that most young women regret [...]
Tags: attraction, boys, cell, college, college students, commitment, crush, date, dating, emo, ex, friend, friends with benefits, girl, girls, guy, guys, hanging out, heart, hooking up, hookup, hos, hot, love, pursue, random, relationships, romance, romantic, sex, sexual freedom, sexual tension, status, STD, stuff, success, support, text, virgin
Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 7, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Relationship Strategies Love love love love. So much fun, so entertaining. I wanna go again.
Here are my reasons for saying this is an AWESOME movie:
It’s better than the book. My beef with the book is that it is such a downer. It’s really all about moving on, not [...]
Tags: attitude, awkward, boys, cell, chick flick, dating, DTR, emo, ex, girls, guy, guys, hanging out, hot, love, male, objective, power, relationships, scene, sex, sexual tension, strategy, technology, true love
Posted by Susan Walsh on Jan 27, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits “I’m afraid Dr. Baker is running a little late.”
Damn it, does this guy ever run on time? It’s only 9 am! I settle into an uncomfortable Colonial wooden chair and glance at the magazines arrayed on the scuffed coffee table. Ancient. I desultorily grab a two year-old Harper’s Bazaar with half its cover missing. Thumbing [...]
Tags: awkward, blog, dating, DNA, drunk, emo, ex, fashion, flirt, friend, guy, guys, heart, hooking up, hookup, hos, hot, love, male, media, pheromones, plan, random, relationships, rude, sex, sexual tension, stuff, technology, text, virgin
