A few years ago I posed a hypothetical question to my niece, then about 15:
Q: There are two men who love you and want to marry you.
The first guy is a successful lawyer, drives a BMW, is handsome, kind, and worships the ground you walk on. But well, he is perhaps just a bit dull. [...]
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“You’re hot then you’re cold
You’re yes then you’re no
You’re in and you’re out
You’re up and you’re down
Someone call the doctor
Got a case of love bipolar
Stuck on a rollercoaster
Can’t get off this ride”
Katy Perry, Hot N Cold
I want to write about integrity, but I don’t know what it is. Sure, I have a sense of what [...]
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Wouldn’t it be great if you could take one look at someone’s face and know if they were relationship material? It turns out that people are remarkably accurate at predicting just that. A study at Durham University in England showed that Boyfriends look significantly different than Players. Check out this example:
At first I thought these [...]
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“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
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“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
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One of the reasons that young people prefer to hook up casually is that they are hesitant to get emotionally invested in a relationship with an expiration date on it. The school year ends, people study abroad, job offers come from different cities, as do acceptances to graduate school. Most people can expect to be [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 11, 2009 in
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Relationship Strategies My heart, which is so full to overflowing, has often been solaced and refreshed by music when sick and weary.”
Martin Luther
When relationships end, music = therapy. When you’re the dumpee, a breakup soundtrack is crucial to getting through it. In my recent post The Girls’ Kickass Guide to Getting Over a Breakup, I promised that [...]
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