I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
Tags: attraction, bad boys, challenge, drama, independence, independent, maturity, mixed message, Muse, psycho bitch, relationship, relationships, security, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, strategy, success, upper hand
Dear Susan,
I’m a 21 year-old college student, so I’m completely immersed in the hookup culture. Like many girls I know, I’ve been hurt by a number of jerks and players that I dated. A while back, I decided to stick to nice guys, but it’s very difficult to trust anyone. I can’t stand the idea [...]
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Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting someone new? At the blog Life After College, guest blogger Ryan Stephens [...]
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There’s a new double-standard being applied to women in relationships, and it’s even more insidious than Studs. vs. Sluts. A favorite tactic of young men when questioned about their questionable behavior is to accuse the self-respecting woman of being a PSYCHO.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not a licensed psychologist. I may dish out a [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 15, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies “Decide what you want and then go get it.”
“You can be anything you want to be.”
“You get what you ask for in this life.”
“You’ll never know unless you try.”
These are some of the principles that have guided my own life. I’m a doer, a go-getter. I’m achievement oriented, though I’ll be the first to confess [...]
Tags: casual sex, dating, friend, friendship, getting what you want, hook up, hooking up, hookup, plan, platonic friends, relationship, relationships, sex, sexual tension, strategy, success, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 13, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies First thing, click play on the mp3 player below. It’s my favorite song of the summer, the All-American Rejects singing Gives You Hell. I’ve probably heard this song a few hundred times, but I’m still not tired of it. It might be the best revenge song EVER.
[dewplayer:/04 Gives You Hell.mp3]
“When you see my face, hope [...]
Tags: All-American Rejects, awkward, breakup, crazy face, crush, drama, ego, eye contact, love, mp3 player, party, regret, relationship, relationships, revenge, strategy, talk, talmud
David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
Tags: alcohol, awkward, beer emotions, communication, date, drunk, emotions, ex, flirt, friend, guy, love, open, plan, regret, relationship, relationships, self-confidence, strategies, strategy, support, trust, youth and beauty
“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Apr 13, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Relationship Strategies Dear Aunt Sue,
I’ve been with this guy Tyler for a while and I really like him a lot. At first we were just hooking up, and we never talked about the relationship or anything. But it became a regular thing, and I developed feelings for him. Then I found out he hooked up with someone [...]
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