I think I’m drowning
asphyxiated
I wanna break this spell
that you’ve created
you’re something beautiful
a contradiction
I wanna play the game
I want the friction
Muse, Time is Running Out
It’s all about the friction.
Friction (def.):
1. The rubbing of one object or surface against another.
2. Conflict, as between persons having dissimilar ideas or interests; clash.
We all know how good the first [...]
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Another Friday and hopefully all you singles have big plans for the weekend. It’s autumn, and I always feel that there’s a sense of possibility in the air at this time of year. It’s the season for getting cozy, so how about meeting someone new? At the blog Life After College, guest blogger Ryan Stephens [...]
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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
Jimmy Soul, 1970
Do beautiful women have a harder time finding real love? I bet Jennifer Aniston thinks so. The woman in this photo writes the [...]
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A few years ago I posed a hypothetical question to my niece, then about 15:
Q: There are two men who love you and want to marry you.
The first guy is a successful lawyer, drives a BMW, is handsome, kind, and worships the ground you walk on. But well, he is perhaps just a bit dull. [...]
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“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent’s fate.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
Playing Hard To Get has traditionally been a woman’s game:
Woman is the desired object.
Man wants sex.
Man courts woman to gain access to sex.
Woman [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Jul 15, 2009 in
Personal Development,
Relationship Strategies “Decide what you want and then go get it.”
“You can be anything you want to be.”
“You get what you ask for in this life.”
“You’ll never know unless you try.”
These are some of the principles that have guided my own life. I’m a doer, a go-getter. I’m achievement oriented, though I’ll be the first to confess [...]
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“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Wayne Gretzky
As far as I can tell, there are three different camps of guys that girls love to gossip about:
1. Guys they have the hots for.
2. Guys that suck.
Note: “Guys they have the hots for” often progress to “guys that suck” over time.
3. Guys they [...]
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“I have no power. Why should she have the upper hand? Once in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand. No hand at all. She has the hand. I have no hand.”
George
“We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get.”
Jerry
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase [...]
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I found this bit of humor at Buzzfeed, but I suspect know that many guys would call it 100% accurate. We call them jerks and douchebags, but we go for them anyway, don’t we? If we didn’t they’d be forced to stop acting so nasty to get laid. Do we force nice guys into last [...]
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