Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 19, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies
I’m traveling today, so I’m bringing you an older post that many of my newer readers will have missed. I originally called it Dating Advice From a Dead Virgin, and it didn’t generate a lot of traffic. Hmmm….maybe I should just have entitled it Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy. Either way, it’s still full of [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual.
1. Women don’t tell each other everything.
We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, it [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies
The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap?
Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works.
The concept refers to the [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 21, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities
Today I’ve got some links that are going to scare the pants right back onto you. I’ve written before about cameras and sex, which, let’s face it, can be a total turn on. Pics of yourself and your lover naked can be a very effective way to build anticipation, whether you’re in a long-distance relationship, [...]
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“You’re hot then you’re cold
You’re yes then you’re no
You’re in and you’re out
You’re up and you’re down
Someone call the doctor
Got a case of love bipolar
Stuck on a rollercoaster
Can’t get off this ride”
Katy Perry, Hot N Cold
I want to write about integrity, but I don’t know what it is. Sure, I have a sense of what [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 13, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want
Jealousy is one of the most powerful and potentially destructive human emotions. When we feel jealous, we say that we are sick with it. Jealousy is the emotion that can make us feel like we’ve been punched in the stomach and had the wind knocked out of us without warning. It can feel like a [...]
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Many guys think it’s OK have numerous sexual relationships at the same time. Most girls don’t. Recently in the Washington Post, advice columnist Carolyn Hax weighed in on this question:
Anonymous: Hi Carolyn,
I am having sex with three people right now. (Not literally right now, but you get the idea.) Two of them have no idea [...]
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I need love, love
To ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
Diana Ross and the Supremes, 1966
In the most basic terms, a human relationship is a connection or attachment [...]
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Narcissus in Greek mythology is a hero, renowned for his beauty. He is exceptionally cruel, in that he disdains those who love him. As divine punishment he falls in love with a reflection in a pool, not realizing it is his own, and perishes there, not being able to leave the beauty of his own [...]
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David Cain has a blog called Raptitude. He describes it as “the gentle art of sanity amidst civilization,” and invites you to have a look around by saying, “Raptitude is a blog for helping each other to enjoy being human. If you are a human, I’m sure you’ll find something you like.” I can get [...]
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