As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Aug 25, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies
You’d like to meet someone new, someone who has real potential for a meaningful relationship. You know there are a million fish in the sea, but you keep coming across the same bottom feeders again and again. How do you meet a good guy? I. Go where the good guys are. Go west, young woman, [...]
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“Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.” Woody Allen Today I’m beginning a new series, and it starts with the backstory of my own most significant relationship. I sometimes share personal details here, but I’ve never told you this particular [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Mar 20, 2009 in
Ask Susan,
Girl Talk,
Hooking Up Realities
Dear Aunt Sue, Do you think guys and girls can really be friends? Or does it always get messed up? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, and I really miss some of his guy friends. I hung out with them for more than a year, and now it’s like they’re off limits. I [...]
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