Posted by Susan Walsh on Feb 4, 2010 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want In my recent post Can Women Run Game on Men? I discussed the book Why Men Love Bitches. There was one particular piece of advice that I thought deserved special attention, because it’s a trap that women frequently fall into. “A [women with high self-esteem] is polite but clear, and communicates very directly, in much [...]
Tags: commitment, communication, communication styles, dating, Deborah Tannen, gender differences, John Gray, Lillian Glass, men, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, relationship advice, women, You Just Don't Understand
Posted by Susan Walsh on Dec 4, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want Yesterday Lisa, a reader, wrote and asked for my thoughts on the Tiger Woods drama. Specifically, she wondered about the correlation between power and infidelity. The correlation is obvious: However, correlation doesn’t tell us anything about cause and effect. We need to look at cheating in general to understand why this correlation is so strong. [...]
Tags: adultery, affection, cheating, desire, infidelity, men, monogamy, power, Tiger Woods, women
As I wrote in Learning to Speak Hookup: A Pocket Phrasebook, the vocabulary surrounding the navigation of sex and relationships has become nearly incomprehensible. In the Hookup language, there are many irregularities and exceptions to the rule. It’s also heavily dependent on context. With so much misunderstanding, young people spend a great deal of time [...]
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Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 26, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies Early this year, the Boston Globe magazine started a feature called Dinner with Cupid. They’ll pay for a blind date, and they do the matchmaking based on interests, education, age, etc. A photo is required as part of the application, so I assume they’re trying to match up people of a similar level of attractiveness [...]
Tags: awkward, bed, blind date, Boston, boston globe, confidence, date, girl, girls, guys, hookup culture, positive attitude, romantic, sense of humor, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 22, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies Is the Pill making women abandon this: In favor of this? I’d like to start by tipping my hat to my favorite Danish guy reader, who clued me in to a new UK study published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution. It suggests that the Pill is dramatically changing the way women and men experience sexual [...]
Tags: attraction, hookup, hookup culture, men, pheromones, relationships, sex, testosterone, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 20, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies,
What Guys Want I hadn’t really planned a post for today, but I woke up to a couple of things this morning that I just have to share. Before lunch today I had already felt: moved, amused, proud, surprised, enlightened, horrified, sickened, shocked, bewildered, repulsed and consumed by paroxysms of laughter. In other words, there’s good news, and [...]
Tags: Art of Manliness, asshat, beauty, beauty and the beast, challenge, dating, Don Draper, fashion, Ferdinand Bardamu, girl, girls, guy, guys, hot, laughter, men, photography, pickup artist, plan, rejection, relationship, relationships, Roissy, Scientology, seduction community, self-confidence, self-esteem, support, Texts from last night, wit, women, YouTube
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 14, 2009 in
Relationship Strategies This list of 35 brutally honest truths will tell you what women really want from men. Let’s just say I’m trying to promote cross-cultural understanding. Think of this as an Instruction Manual. 1. Women don’t tell each other everything. We don’t share a lot of intimate sexual details. OK, if you’re hung like a stallion, [...]
Tags: advice, bed, blow job, boys, chivalry, date, douchebag, drama, dumb, femininity, flaky, flirt, friend, girl, girls, guy, guys, hookup, independence, intelligence, kiss, kissing, love, mean girl, men, orgasm, penis size, pissed, porn, pursue, relationship, relationships, scene, sexual tension, sexual variety, single, sons, support, trust, vagina, women, x chromosome
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 12, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Relationship Strategies The Concept of Fast, Good or Cheap? Psychologist Linda Young has written an article at Psychology Today that caught the attention of the largely dormant MBA part of my brain. She takes a Project Management construct and applies it to dating. It’s called Fast, Good or Cheap, and I think it works. The concept refers [...]
Tags: assertive communication, charisma, college, commitment, dating, emotional stability, empathy, fling, flirt, guy, guys, hooking up, hookup, humor, integrity, linda young, long term relationships, love, love at first sight, MBA, men, partner selection, physical attractiveness, project management, psychologist, psychology today, relationship, relationships, sex, sex appeal, sexual variety, smart, social customs, symbols of wealth, trust, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 9, 2009 in
Girl Talk,
Personal Development Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. ~Woody Allen There are some very compelling reasons why you should be having sex. A lot of sex. Common sense tells us that the male orgasm directly serves to propagate the species. Although the female orgasm has [...]
Tags: attachment, brain, college students, creativity, date, David Buss, feelings, girl, guys, having sex, health, kiss, kissing, orgasm, porn, problem-solving, relationship, self-confidence, self-esteem, sex, support, swine, swine flu, testosterone, women
Posted by Susan Walsh on Oct 7, 2009 in
Hooking Up Realities,
Tidbits,
What Guys Want I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the [...]
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