Relationship Strategies

Dating Apps: Reframing How and Why You Use Them

July 15, 2018
Dating Apps: Reframing How and Why You Use Them

Five or six years ago, when I was first venturing out into the dating world as an adult, dating apps were not a thing, but I still met potential partners with relative ease. Whether it was through my friends, out at a bar, in a coffee shop or whatever, connecting was not that difficult. Of […]

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Are Dating Apps Facilitating Bad Behavior?

June 24, 2018
Are Dating Apps Facilitating Bad Behavior?

This past week could have been nicknamed “The Week of Bad Behavior.” The more I talk to women, the more dating app problems come to light. One of my friends met a man on an app last year, and she wound up discovering post-breakup that he had a girlfriend in another city the entire time […]

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Act Three

December 15, 2017
Act Three

Regular readers have noticed that I’ve been updating the blog less and less frequently. I haven’t addressed it directly because I’ve been feeling very ambivalent. I don’t want to quit it, but neither do I choose to put in the hours at HUS that I once did. I started Hooking Up Smart just over nine […]

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The Best Strategies for Dating Success

November 17, 2017
The Best Strategies for Dating Success

This is Part III of a series on giving yourself a Dating Makeover. Part I: Give Yourself a Dating Makeover may be found HERE. Part II: Designing Your New Approach to Dating may be found HERE. In my last two posts I’ve provided a framework for thinking about how to be more successful at dating by changing […]

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Designing Your New Approach to Dating

October 31, 2017
Designing Your New Approach to Dating

In my last post I discussed the value of a fresh start in dating. Many people find it helpful to take a pause, especially after a disappointing romantic experience. They feel discouraged and even hopeless that they’ll ever find someone to love. That’s the best time for a new approach. In dating we can’t control […]

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