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Did You Feel the “Spark” When You First Met Your Partner?

June 27, 2018
Did You Feel the “Spark” When You First Met Your Partner?

People talk a lot about the “spark.” What is the “spark,” to be exact? Do you need to feel the spark for something to take off? Does it constantly change, morphing into a slightly different feeling of chemistry with each new partner? Or will you only ever feel it once? Will you never feel it […]

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How Bad Boys are Like Junk Food

February 14, 2017
How Bad Boys are Like Junk Food

Have you ever heard someone confess a soft spot for bad boys? I have, many times. Instead of regret or embarrassment, women often report a history of choosing bad boys or players with a giggle. They describe it as a guilty pleasure, like craving expensive dark chocolate.  When in reality it’s more like bingeing on junk […]

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Confidence Is the Secret Sauce In Dating

January 20, 2017
Confidence Is the Secret Sauce In Dating

If you’re not a narcissist sociopath, you probably feel that you could benefit from a bit more self-confidence in dealing with the opposite sex. Self-confidence is arguably more powerful and attractive than any other single trait, including good looks, earning power, or a great personality. Why? Because self-confidence is shorthand for all of those things. […]

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Relationship Benchmark #10: You Admire and Respect Your Partner

September 2, 2016
Relationship Benchmark #10: You Admire and Respect Your Partner

There’s a kind of attraction that’s very important in choosing a life partner, and it often gets lost in all the talk about sexual attraction and how to maintain it over time. Attraction to another person based on their character, dreams, choices, and even the way they inspire others generates admiration and respect. The initial intense […]

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Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

April 19, 2016
Men and Women Want the Same Thing In Dating

Attraction is complicated. I’ve often described it as a weighted formula comprising a wide range of characteristics. When it comes to the weights, i.e. importance, assigned to any particular characteristic, like good looks or social status, there are as many variations as there are individuals. Ideally, mating occurs when two individuals with complementary standards and […]

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